I Think I’m Clever: Unasked-For Advice

  • How I (eventually) learned to leave relationships that weren’t right for me.

    How I (eventually) learned to leave relationships that weren’t right for me.

    A dear friend of mine seems to think I am far more resilient than I actually am. Why? In my late twenties, I took a long, hard look around me, and ultimately walked away from people I loved. Why was I able to look at people I loved, people who weren’t all bad (just bad for me), and decide enough was enough–and actually walk away?

  • On Healthy Relationships: Maybe Love *Should* Be Conditional

    On Healthy Relationships: Maybe Love *Should* Be Conditional

    When I was younger, the most romantic thought in my head was that someone could love me unconditionally, in spite of all my flaws and faults and myriad poor life choices–so I made that my goal in my endeavors. To be able to love people (friends, family, romantic partners) without conditions. That road? The road of absolute, unconditional, “I will do anything, put up with anything, sacrifice anything for you” kind of love? That road leads to unhealthy relationships.

  • Happily Child-Free: How I Knew for 100% Certainty I Did NOT Want Kids

    Happily Child-Free: How I Knew for 100% Certainty I Did NOT Want Kids

    There’s an old wisdom—that we often regret the things we didn’t do far more than the things we did. I’ve decided this sentiment doesn’t apply to kids—it is far better to regret the children you didn’t have than regret the ones you did have.

    Sure, sometimes, when my love holds babies (rare that it currently is due to COVID), it does something funny to my ovaries, but that’s simple, basic biology.

    However, I am far more than my genetic programming.

Health In Hashimoto’s

  • Jogging Thoughts: What Could Have Been With Medicine

    Jogging Thoughts: What Could Have Been With Medicine

    Sometimes I wonder what kind of teacher I could have been had I been properly medicated for my thyroid issue. I don’t think I would have exactly been Jaime Escalante, but still. I think I could have been a lot more fun… or perhaps a lot less secretly miserable.

  • Happy Surprise: I AM SUDDENLY OKAY TODAY (?!)

    Happy Surprise: I AM SUDDENLY OKAY TODAY (?!)

    Two days ago, I wrote a frustrated blog post at like 4 a.m. about how absolutely terrible and awful I felt. It was nothing out of the ordinary, just a vent because that’s what happens every time I lift a delicate little weight. Sarah cast “CURE”! Today, I feel like the health fairy sprinkled magic […]

  • It’s 2 a.m. and I am in so much pain.

    It’s 2 a.m. and I am in so much pain.

    I woke up because every muscle in my body is on fire. Existing hurts. I did ten minutes of light yoga and walked 9k steps yesterday. The day before, I completed four exercises with 6lb weights or body weights. This isn’t DOMS. This is an autoimmune flare. Again. Sunday, I felt great. Good enough to […]