Love

  • On Healthy Relationships: Maybe Love *Should* Be Conditional

    On Healthy Relationships: Maybe Love *Should* Be Conditional

    When I was younger, the most romantic thought in my head was that someone could love me unconditionally, in spite of all my flaws and faults and myriad poor life choices–so I made that my goal in my endeavors. To be able to love people (friends, family, romantic partners) without conditions. That road? The road of absolute, unconditional, “I will do anything, put up with anything, sacrifice anything for you” kind of love? That road leads to unhealthy relationships.

  • The Prodigal Father

    The Prodigal Father

    Tonight, I’m left wondering: How was Telemachus supposed to feel after his father, Odysseus, returned home–and learned that dear old Dad like… slept with all these chicks and endangered all his crewmates and MAIMED SOME RANDOM CYCLOPS WHO WAS SIMPLY MINDING HIS BUSINESS?

  • Taking Simple Joy in Writing: A Reflection

    Taking Simple Joy in Writing: A Reflection

    I used to write, all the time, about whatever sundry topic happened to flit into my brain. As an adult, though, I feel… shy? Is that the right word? Hesitant, perhaps? Randomly blogging about my life feels self-aggrandizing at best and totally narcissistic at worst. However, I met my very best friend in the whole […]

  • Happily Child-Free: How I Knew for 100% Certainty I Did NOT Want Kids

    Happily Child-Free: How I Knew for 100% Certainty I Did NOT Want Kids

    There’s an old wisdom—that we often regret the things we didn’t do far more than the things we did. I’ve decided this sentiment doesn’t apply to kids—it is far better to regret the children you didn’t have than regret the ones you did have.

    Sure, sometimes, when my love holds babies (rare that it currently is due to COVID), it does something funny to my ovaries, but that’s simple, basic biology.

    However, I am far more than my genetic programming.

  • Live Happily Ever After: Become A Love Language Polyglot

    Live Happily Ever After: Become A Love Language Polyglot

    Polyglot. Adjective. Definition: Knowing or using several languages. Why not become a polyglot in all the love languages? A few days back, I was chatting online with a good friend of mine. She was super excited that her boyfriend had thoughtfully picked up something she’d been eyeing for months–but she seemed to almost feel guilty for appreciating the […]

  • The Cost of Finding Yourself

    The Cost of Finding Yourself

    Once upon a time, I daydreamed that I could go back in time–I’d go to college in a beach-side town. I’d bartend. I’d live in the sun and sand in a beat-up little house or apartment full of color and thrift-store finds. I’d be broke as hell, but free. And if I were exceptionally lucky, […]

  • What “Marriage Takes Work” Actually Means

    What “Marriage Takes Work” Actually Means

    It’s pretty obvious that bad things will absolutely happen over the course of a long relationship: illness, death, random acts of a furious and vengeful God/dess. The usual. These, predictably, add stress to any relationship, but if your relationship is solid, you will weather every storm that the universe and/or your asshole family will throw […]

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